Monday, August 8, 2011

1dpIUI: Post IUI sadness

I had major uterine cramping yesterday afternoon, which the doc warned me might happen. Seems if you shove something up your cervix and in to your uterus, the body reacts. I don't blame it at all. Quite a violation. Physically I'm feeling much less bloated than yesterday - I did have close to 20 follicles ripening in there. And the cramping has disappeared this morning. I'm actually looking forward to hitting the gym after work today.


I was hoping that Mr. Jem and I would have some intimate time yesterday, to consummate this baby-making thing. Only he was in a pissy mood all day. We finally talked around 10:00 p.m. - post Jem emotional (hormonal?) breakdown, tears and all. The truth is that it totally bums him out to be using donor sperm. While he accepts that's what we need to do, hearing the sperm count of our donor (32 million swimmers) was a real blow. I can totally understand. However, it's hard for me to understand unless he actually TELLS me what's going on, rather than avoiding me, avoiding discussion and watching sports to escape. Luckily we did have that talk and now we're back to feeling close again.

Tomorrow I'm hosting my local RESOLVE meeting, as the regular leader is cycling (her 4th or 5th IVF) and needs the month off. I'm really looking forward to having the ladies over.


If you are in your 2WW, raise your hands (proudly)!

All the best,

~Jem

11 comments:

TeeJay said...

I'm sorry Mr. Jem is feeling down. But you are right, he needs to feel like he can open up to you. I'm so hoping one of those swimmers found one of your great eggs. Fingers crossed! I know the 2ww sucks but hopefully you can find some ways to make it go faster.

Nikki said...

Raising my hand!

Gurlee said...

Sorry Jem, I've been out of the loop since your first private post, I'm glad your back & with a plan that is in action! It must be a blow for the hubs. IF sucks for both parties and unfortunately it is not always easy to handle it with grace.
Good luck in this 2ww, I'll be starting my own in two days.

Poppet said...

This can't be easy for Mr. Jem - in light of everything you have all been through - but he needs to realize that you need his emotional support, even when he might not feel like giving any.

That's what parenting is all about! Tending to someone else's needs, no matter what your mood is, and he should get used to it...

Sorry for the tough love...

Poppet (whose husband ruined a perfectly lovely dinner because of his own bad mood, cause unknown).

Kristina said...

Sorry yesterday was a little rough for you guys. It is a tough situation. . . but also very hopeful. I so hope the magic happens this cycle; sending lots of good thoughts!

p.s. My 2ww just ended a few days ago. . . Another one coming up soon.

b said...

good luck for your two week wait!

amiracle4us said...

Best of luck hun!

Christina said...

Raising my hand. I'm pretty sure that I ovulated today, so I'm on the same cycle as you. Here's to hoping!

Mrs. Gamgee said...

When our bodies fail us, male or female, we all have to deal with the frustration and sense of failure. I'm glad that he was finally able to talk to you about it. It takes men so much longer to open up about this stuff.

Because we decided to put Halfling 2.0 on hold for a while back in the spring, I haven't been tracking my last few cycles... but I'm tentatively raising my hand. I'm pretty sure I ovulated about a week ago (hard to say for sure). I started experiencing my usual phantom symptoms today...

Rain Child said...

I am glad that you and Mr. Jem are feeling close again. IF is so hard on relationships at times.

I hope the 2WW goes quickly!!!

Adele said...

The cramping is strange - sometimes I've had it, sometimes not. Never figured out which variables made it happen.

I'm glad that you and Mr. Jem reconnected. I'd have hated to hear that count. But the donor is going to be nothing more than a donor. He's going to be EVERYTHING. (I know, so easy to say from the side. BUT, also, true.)