Saturday, January 29, 2011

8dp5dt: Panic

Folks, I think I'm having a panic attack. I have shortness of breath, and my brain is going a million miles a minute/ I feel like my hands are shaking and I'm grumpy and snapping at the mister for no reason. 

Just two more sleeps until beta and I'm going out of my mind!!!

So here's my question for you all: To pee on a stick or not. 

How many of you do pee before beta? If you do, how soon? My acupuncturist warned me that if I test today it could give me a false negative and I should wait until tomorrow. I see so many blogs where people start testing at trigger and don't stop. I've always thought that POAS was a the devil.

What would you do?

~Jem

23 comments:

lowfatlady said...

I tend to poas around 12dpo and then again at 14dpo. this last cycle I didn't poas at all and still haven't. thinking of you!

erika said...

I am a bad POAS addict ... I like to know before bw.

runnyyolk said...

Oh man, I don't think I'd be able to resist. Good luck!!

-Elphaba

tishi said...

I did not pee on a stick before my beta....not even once I just waited and waited and suffered panic attack after panic attack. Once I got the positive beta I peed on a stick every other day for a month! hah

Melissa G said...

I still haven't decided what I'm going to do. But I will say that I think whether to POAS or not should be on a case by case basis.

If I was going nutty and having panic attacks, I would POAS right away.

Thinking of you.

Marissa said...

As you know, I'm testing daily. And as you also know, I'm still getting negatives.

This morning, my left (just the left...) breast hurt so badly it woke me up. I also felt nauseous before I ate and again around noon.

I would be 100% convinced I was pregnant if I weren't testing daily. Of course, there's still the chance I might be (I'm 7dp5dt, so a day behind you), but considering that every other person I know who had ER on the same day as I did (or even the next day) and has tested has gotten positives, I'm thinking no.

I realize this seems "all about me". But what I'm trying to say is, I like to prepare for the worst while hoping for the best. Getting negatives sucks, but it will make my beta day easier to deal with. And getting a POSITIVE would just make everything that came before it seem like a dream.

I think, with the anxiety you're having, you should test. Try not to take a negative as a written-in-stone, because it's not. But a positive would put you in a much better mood!

This is assuming that you, like me, never believe negatives until about 2 weeks after your period has well and truly come...

Scottie Mom said...

Don't do it! It never eliminates the doubt/hope that the result could be wrong. Those damn things play with your mind!

But if you do, you'd better report it to us!

Good luck!

Stacie said...

I pee...I still go crazy. Hugs to you. Whatever you decide, I hope you find some peace until beta day!

Mrs. Misfits said...

i always like to know ahead of time. Do what will help calm your nerves. Betas tend to be low to start it's easy to see an early negative and a positive on your testing day. Again, if knowing early has a downside, I'd hold off. Hang in there.

Michelle said...

Last IVF I was 100% against POAS. I waited till beta and was soooo nervous all day, I could barely breathe.
This time I am peeing from transfer day. I want to know, even if implantation doesn't equal baby, I need to know.
You should be good to test today,as you are 14dpo. Good luck!

Illanare said...

Me, I peed on as many sticks as I could each time. It's not for everyone and I knew that false negatives were a real possibility, but I just couldn't help myself.
Keeping everything crossed for you.

EBC said...

I did the night before my beta. Just to give my self fair warning. Good luck whatever you decide--here's hoping desperately for you that you see two wonderful lines!

Heather said...

Yep, I always POAS before beta. I never wanted to be surprised over the phone (most likely while at work). It gave me time to prepare for the worst. That said, I usually waited until 12dpo to do it.

Good luck next week! I've got everything crossed for you.

Krista said...

I must be very unique because I never POAS with any of my IUIs, and I won't for my IVF either. Call me crazy...but I want to know FOR SURE! I don't want to be questioning a pregnancy test and driving myself bokies! Do what you have to do though! Hang in there! You are almost there!

Cherbear said...

it's such a tough call. I don't think I can say anything more than what others have said, but if you're "polling", I would POAS. At least the night before beta, or morning of beta. I think I would have been even more of a mess hearing that it was negative from the nurse, if I hadn't already been "let down" by the HPT's. I can honestly admit that I still had hope -- b/c honestly if you don't have hope then WHAT do you have??
But if the stick is positive then you know sooner and can celebrate. This is such a hard process, everything from day 1 to beta. NUTS!!!

Sarah said...

I didn't POAS for our IVF, but I guess mainly because I didn't want it to end. I just wanted to hold on to hope as long as possible. As soon as the beta was positive I went right home and wanted to see those two lines!

Amber said...

When we were TTC, I had exactly ZERO self control when it came to poas. I hope you do better than I did! Also, panic attacks just suck. I hope you're feeling better. <3

Carlia said...

i try not to POAS, but every now and then i give in, so i don't think i'm much help. either way, i wish you tons of luck and hope to hear good news soon!

Kakunaa said...

I didn't POAS. Kept them out of the house and everything. I didn't want to be disappointed early. I wanted to believe I was pregnant as long as possible, in case it was negative. After, I went out and bought a digital so I could see that "Pregnant". Just the one time. But I'm also aware that I'm not the norm :)

Panic attacks blow. They really do. If it will get you over the hump, do it. If it will make it worse, don't. It's not an easy decision. Fingers crossed!

Allison said...

I'm a POAS-addict, so I'm in awe of your ability to hold out.

Jem, I think about you and those little girl embabies so often, it's probably borderline stalkerish. My prayers fly up to heaven several times a day for you. I pray this morning that you are granted a more peaceful day.

Poppet said...

To pee or not too pee???? Is that the question?! (Had to...)

So what did you do. I've checked now twice. The suspense.

Panic attacks are part of parenting! You think you are panicking now, just wait until you have lost a toddler in a large shopping center!

womb for improvement said...

I would test but just before my beta. Not too early, but I'd want a heads up on the result before I am told by a nurse.

Best of luck.

linda said...

I POAS every day after transfer...watch the trigger HCG disappear and then if anything shows up after that I know for certain right away that it's a BFP.

But that's just me!