Saturday, February 6, 2010

Grandma Report 2

Grandma is resting comfortably. There's nothing medical to be done now, except to make her comfortable. That's code for lots of morph.ine.

She smiled at me briefly on Thursday when I came in the room, but has been unconscious since. Her breathing has become labored. My mom flew down from Oregon so the whole family is gathered around her to say goodbye.

I had an hour yesterday alone with her while others were running errands. It was wonderful to just hold her hand and tell her how much I love her and to thank her for being the source of so much love, support, good humor, intellectual curiosity.

(I can't believe two post with no mention of IF - it's a relief not to be navel-gazing and contemplating my bareness, but to celebrating the wonderful life of a 96-y-o woman, being there for her and for my family!)

Jem

12 comments:

Riley said...

She sounds like a wonderful woman. I'm glad you are able to be there by her side, but I'm sure it's hard to say goodbye. Thinking of you.

Priscilla said...

I'll be thinking about you as you saw goodbye to your wonderful grandma. ((HUGS))

Adele said...

She sounds lovely. I'm so glad you can be with her through this time, difficult though it must be (adding to the other difficult things you've been through lately). You are both in my thoughts.

Poppet said...

There is nothing harder than saying good-bye to someone you love!

Stacie said...

I am still thinking of you and sending you strength during this difficult time. I know it is so hard to say goodbye to the ones we love. Hugs.

irrationalexuberance said...

Oy, Jem, I'm sorry for this... it's wonderful that you have the opportunity to be with her at this time, but incredibly hard nonetheless. Thinking of you and your family.

babyattheend said...

Sending you lots of love, Jem. I love the pic of you two in your previous post.

addingtothepack said...

I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I am glad that you got some private time with her.

nutsinmay said...

I got to say goodbye to my grandmother when she died seven years ago. It was heart-breaking, but it's a memory I really cherish, being able to hold her hand and talk to her and to know she went surrounded by her family. I hope your memories bring the same peace to you when the worst of the grieving and sorrow is over. Many hugs, to you and your family.

Melissa G said...

I'm so sorry about your grandmother, but I'm sure it's nice to have had a bit of time with her.

Thinking of you.

hopingforababy said...

Im sorry about your grandma. You are very lucky to be able to share this time with her and thank her for all of her love. Hope you and your family are doing ok.

B. said...

I am so sorry about your grandmother. It is rough. I lost my grandmother, who I was very close to, a few years back, and it's still a bit hard. She sounds like a great woman. It is great that you can all come together at this time, you'll never forget it. I am sending peaceful thoughts your way!