Work has been crazy, but crazy fun (for the most part). I do have time to keep up with some blogs, and some celebrity news. Just read that Mark McGrath of Sugar_Ray and his wife just had twins with IVF. Here's the article.
I also read that Sarah_Jessica_Parker said was considering more babies, despite having been criticised (?) for having used a surrogate. Criticized? Really?
I'm actually heartened to read about celebrities and their infertility. A couple of months ago People_Magazine had a cover story on Celine_Dion and her struggles to conceive. I think the more light is thrown on IF, the better. Hmmm. Let me amend that... The more (right) light is thrown on IF the better ... Octo_mom and Kate_G don't help the cause much.
On a more personal front, Mr. Jem had a chat with Dr. Johnson yesterday and they conferenced me in by phone so I could be in on the conversation. Dr. J was happy that Mr. Jem's count went up. He left it up to us to continue the Clo.mid, which we won't because of the lowered libido. Mr. Jem will start back up on testosterone gel again in a couple of months, after we do the next cycle, etc. This cycle we'll try on our own. next cycle, back to IVF. Yippee, fun!
That's all for now. Gotta get back to work!
Showing posts with label Clom.id for men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Clom.id for men. Show all posts
Friday, April 30, 2010
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Spotting has stopped & More on "Clom.id for Men" and marriage
Mystery spotting has ceased (I'm not a spotter). Hmm. Curious. Maybe my body will get back to normal. Maybe? Please?
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"Clom.id for Men" update:
Mr. Jem left a message yesterday with Dr. Johnson, the urologist. Hopefully they'll find a better medication to increase sperm and that won't keep his libido at zero. Oh, and to answer some of your questions, Mr. Jem is on other medication, Pro.zac, to be precise. So, that is also a factor in this whole thing.
Mr. Jem and I had a big talk last night. I expressed to him what I want from a marriage, that I want him to be 100% participating - emotionally (which he does do), but also in terms of doing things around the house like shopping, cooking, cleaning, economically, AND romantically. I want a full partner in life.
He had been very upset by a comment I had made last week when I was trying to explain my needs and that I felt I was being "used" and "taken advantage of" because I trundle off to work early each morning, hour commute each way to a high pressure job. Then I come home and make dinner and then have to ask him to do the dishes, or the vacuum. I have been feeling so much pressure to hold the whole thing together! It's no wonder that my back is a mess! The stress of it all!
I told him I felt a bit "co-dependent" because I have not always been good about expressing my needs. I'm a lot better now, thanks to years of therapy.
Mr. Jem is starting his own business. I asked that we look at our whole household like a business. We even gave it a fictional name, something like "Mr. and Ms. Jem, Incorporated." Like every business we need a budget, we need goals to grow (grow the family = baby, grow our $$, grow our circle of friends, grow our interests and hobbies, grow our giving to the community, grow our spiritual lives), prosper. We need to know how long to give his entrepreneurial endeavors a go until we say, "Basta!" and insist that he gets a job to bring in money.
Mr. Jem taped a recent "Dr Fill" tv show where a former dot.com executive had lost his job and now his wife is holding down two jobs as he "looks" for a new one. He spends his days doing nothing. Dr. Fill spent a good amount of time telling the husband to get off his keester and take a job, any job, to make money for the family and to "be a husband." Interestingly, Mr. Jem said, "surprisingly, there are a lot of similarities between himself and that man on TV." I think it made him realize how unhappy I am with the current situation and that he's losing me.
Last night he told me, "Jem, when you told said that you felt used it was the second worst thing you could say to me. The worst would have been if you had said that you don't trust me."
I wonder if part of me doesn't trust him. He says he loves me, wants to make me happy, but then slips into his own world. If I had a dollar for every excuse he's made to do things later (chores, work, me) I'd be a very rich woman. "I'm too tired." - "I'm stressed by graduate school." - "All I can think about is my sucky job." - "I'm worried about my father being ill." - "I ate too much." - "I couldn't sleep last night." - "I don't know how to seduce you." That last one killed me! You're 47 years old. Don't tell me you don't know what to do!!!!
We'll keep talking. I'll keep you all posted.
Jem
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"Clom.id for Men" update:
Mr. Jem left a message yesterday with Dr. Johnson, the urologist. Hopefully they'll find a better medication to increase sperm and that won't keep his libido at zero. Oh, and to answer some of your questions, Mr. Jem is on other medication, Pro.zac, to be precise. So, that is also a factor in this whole thing.
Mr. Jem and I had a big talk last night. I expressed to him what I want from a marriage, that I want him to be 100% participating - emotionally (which he does do), but also in terms of doing things around the house like shopping, cooking, cleaning, economically, AND romantically. I want a full partner in life.
He had been very upset by a comment I had made last week when I was trying to explain my needs and that I felt I was being "used" and "taken advantage of" because I trundle off to work early each morning, hour commute each way to a high pressure job. Then I come home and make dinner and then have to ask him to do the dishes, or the vacuum. I have been feeling so much pressure to hold the whole thing together! It's no wonder that my back is a mess! The stress of it all!
I told him I felt a bit "co-dependent" because I have not always been good about expressing my needs. I'm a lot better now, thanks to years of therapy.
Mr. Jem is starting his own business. I asked that we look at our whole household like a business. We even gave it a fictional name, something like "Mr. and Ms. Jem, Incorporated." Like every business we need a budget, we need goals to grow (grow the family = baby, grow our $$, grow our circle of friends, grow our interests and hobbies, grow our giving to the community, grow our spiritual lives), prosper. We need to know how long to give his entrepreneurial endeavors a go until we say, "Basta!" and insist that he gets a job to bring in money.
Mr. Jem taped a recent "Dr Fill" tv show where a former dot.com executive had lost his job and now his wife is holding down two jobs as he "looks" for a new one. He spends his days doing nothing. Dr. Fill spent a good amount of time telling the husband to get off his keester and take a job, any job, to make money for the family and to "be a husband." Interestingly, Mr. Jem said, "surprisingly, there are a lot of similarities between himself and that man on TV." I think it made him realize how unhappy I am with the current situation and that he's losing me.
Last night he told me, "Jem, when you told said that you felt used it was the second worst thing you could say to me. The worst would have been if you had said that you don't trust me."
I wonder if part of me doesn't trust him. He says he loves me, wants to make me happy, but then slips into his own world. If I had a dollar for every excuse he's made to do things later (chores, work, me) I'd be a very rich woman. "I'm too tired." - "I'm stressed by graduate school." - "All I can think about is my sucky job." - "I'm worried about my father being ill." - "I ate too much." - "I couldn't sleep last night." - "I don't know how to seduce you." That last one killed me! You're 47 years old. Don't tell me you don't know what to do!!!!
We'll keep talking. I'll keep you all posted.
Jem
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